Hookers..Hackers And Heartache..

When i was in High school and thinking about coming to university, i had no idea the experience would be completely different from what i have gone through for the past 4 years.. Lets see, in the mist of my 4 years in University i have had a stalker who loved hacking into my email, as well as my boyfriend’s email and threaten him..I never thought that i would have to change my password every day or for my better half to also be very careful what he does because the stalker might want to beat him up or something if he did wrong.. ¬†ūüėÄ Which i have to admit even though it was a little scary in the beginning it was kind of flattering.. :-)..

Which i have to admit even though it was a little scary in the beginning it was kind of flattering.. :-).. I have witnessed and met about 6 university girls who are hooking, ( girls from countries like Malaysia,Egypt, Sudan, Nigeria, Iran as well as Botswana are selling their bodies for money or even booze in and around Cyberjaya) ¬†Apparently they are hooking their way through college.. ūüôā

¬†And now the latest part of my college experience is a heart break.. I never thought that i would have to deal or try to survive being heart broken because i have always been so very naive when it comes to matters of the heart.. I have never been one to trust easily, i have always had my guard up, that’s why i never even had a boyfriend in high school because there just wasnt any one who got my attention and i didnt want to open up and let any one in.. But then i came to University and met what i thought was a pretty awesome guy, fell overly and insanely in love. I mean when i met him i thought we will be together for ever, he was, i mean still is the one, my soul mate, the one i was supposed to be with, destiny.. The things started going south and now i have to learn to live with this bulging, insufferable pain in my heart, down my gutt, through my head.. I have to live with trying to keep tears from flowing down my face every single hour of the day.. The hardest part about this new venture in my life is trying to paste a happy face on as i talk to random people and as i walk about in the streets..¬†

What were you expecting in college and are you experiencing everything that you wanted to? ūüôā

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Stalkers And Secret Admirers..

Today i thought i should talk about something different, stalkers and secret admirers. Why do people become stalkers or secret admirers, even more importantly why do some people have stalkers!! I have had the experience of having someone actually stalk me, for me it was a very weird and somewhat scary experience. The girl was in love with me, but i did not feel the same for her at all ( i mean seeing as i am not attracted to girls and all). But it was a very traumatizing and stressful situation.

People characterized as stalkers may have a mistaken belief that another person loves them, or that they need rescuing.Stalking can sometimes consist of an accumulation of a series of actions which in themselves can be legal, such as calling on the phone, sending gifts, or sending emails. ( and i have experience all of the above, receiving email, phone calls, pictures of me taken when i didnt even know it, weird gifts) i mean name it i experienced it.. :-/

Despite a growing body of research in the past five years, stalking is still very misunderstood by the public, the courts and law enforcement. For practical purposes there are three types of stalking. Relationship stalking occurs when a couple breaks up. But that is not stalking in a legal sense. It just looks like and feels like stalking. Obsessional stalking develops because of the way the couple interacted and the way they broke up. Obsessional stalking is a psychological problem that has many causes but in general it is the result of an “on again” and “off again” relationship as was well as a “desire and fear of a relationship” in one person and “fear of separation and loss” in the other. The childhood of at least one these people is usually emotionally barren or emotionally abusive. Delusional stalking occurs when a mental disorder causes the person to become obsessed or fixated on some unsuspecting person because of what amounts to a medical condition.

Moving on, secret admirers arent really different from stalkers by my believe. I think the only difference is that we some how know that the secret admirers wont actually ever hurt us, or hurt other people because of their professed love for us.

A secret admirer is an individual who feels adoration, fondness or love for another person without disclosing their identity to that person. The admirer may often send gifts or love letters to their crush. A secret admirer is usually benign. Mostly, the goal of a secret admirer is to woo the object of their affections, and then to reveal their identity, paving the way for a real relationship.

The best way to deal with a stalker is to remove yourself from the stalker’s reach. This should be your first priority. Cut off all communication with the stalker. Avoid responding. As for the Secret admirer i guess it all depends on whether you want to know who that person is or not, and whether you will want to get to know them more or not, if you are curious, then you can go ahead and meet your secret admirer or if you are not interested, you can just ignore them and not respond to their letters and invitations. ūüėÄ

Now im not sure why i have had both a stalker( luckly only one) and secret admirer ( i have had about 4 now).. but below is a picture of some letters i have gotten from both my stalker and secret admirers.. can you tell which one is which ? ūüôā


It’s Getting Harder To Live In This World

I just completely can not bare to live in a world like this, my last post was about the 27 year old man who married the 8 year old girl in Saudi Arabia. And today i see another equally disturbing story about a 15 year old girl in¬†Afghanistan who was tortured by her in laws ( yes, she is only 15 and is like the one before, married to a¬†¬†30 year old man) because she refused to be pushed into prostitution.. There is not much that i can say about this because it just makes me sick. The girl has since been¬†rescued¬†by the¬†Afghan Women’s Network, it makes me a little bit happy to know that¬†at least¬†this girl, unlike the many others in the world who are forced into marriage and prostitution and the in laws were arrested as well, but the husband¬†wasn’t. If we all saved one girl who goes through such horror ( this girl was locked in her in laws’ basement, starved and had her nails pulled out) then it will do some change in the world.¬†

If you want to read more about this go to this link