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Lets Trade Places..

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How about we trade places for once, for a day, even just an hour!

This is how I sometimes feel about being a girl in a relationship. I want to trade places for once, I want my boyfriend to feel how it is like to be his girlfriend, how it is like to be a girl period!

The waiting for calls, the loving too much(I believe women always love more than men in the relationship).

The going out with my friends at all hours of the day for however long I wish without a care in the world, not even bothering to let him know I’m good, i’m still alive, or simply that I wont be home till late..

The constant ogling at random “hot” guys that pass about just drooling because they are so fucking gorgeous.

The power switch, so that I now have total power and control over the relationship and how it is going to go and how decisions will be made..

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Let us be the ones who dress slouchy and still be sexy as hell, while they have to where tight clothes and uncomfortable heels just so that we can whistle and say demeaning things to them in order to grab their attention. Then call them sluts for dressing sexy and for the simple fact that we cant have them..

I mean just for hour hour, i’m sure he wouldnt survive being me. This is the thing about men, they are sometimes( not all the times) very inconsiderate of their women’s feelings and most of the times take us for granted because they simply believe we will be by their side for ever.. While on the other hand they want, no, expect us to be all over them, and grant them every wish under the sun, not to mention know when they want to be with us and when they dont want to be.. as if we some sort of mind readers!

Lol, so I just say, lets trade places just for an hour, and see how that affects them. 😀

Let’s get personal…

I hardly ever talk about anything personal on this blog, but today merits a bit of intimacy i believe! 😀

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Today is my five year anniversary with my boyfriend! Yes.. 5 Years.. WOOOWW! It seems like a long time when i say it out loud, but it feels like we have just met. It feels like we have been dating just for a short time, still exploring and discovering new things about each other every single day.

Let me give a little back story to our world whirl relationship. We met during my first year in University, just 3 months after I began studying and the day we met I knew we were destined to be. It probably sounds sappy, but anyway, we met, we clicked and we have been together ever since.

It was hard at times, filled with fights, misunderstandings and general confusion as can be when two strangers get to know each other. But we always got through it, and we always ended up loving each other more afterwards and this has been the best 5 years of my life, the happiest I have ever been and I never thought it was possible to love someone this much until I met him. And I’m pretty sure he will not read this, he never much checks out this blog, but thats ok. I just felt a need to scream it to the world that I am in love and it’s been five years and I hope to celebrate man more years to come with him. 😀

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Happy anniversary my handsome, sweet, lovely, amazing bf! I love you more than words can say.    😀

p.s that is not us in the picture. 🙂

International Women’s Day

A woman is beauty..

A woman is strength..

A woman is power..

A woman is hope..

A woman is love..

A woman is the future..

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Today is International women’s day, International Women’s Day (IWD), originally called International Working Women’s Day, is marked on March 8 every year. In different regions the focus of the celebrations ranges from general celebration of respect, appreciation and love towards women to a celebration for women’s economic, political and social achievements.

In many parts of the world women are abused, treated like second class citizens  raped, and just plain disrespected and not loved the way they are supposed to be.

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On this International Women’s Day let women embrace themselves in multiple identities and complexities. Each of us embodies many realities all at the same time. The same woman who may be raped is also a mother, a professional worker, a migrant labourer, or…. None of our issues should be singularised although there are times they need priority.

This said, it is time in 2013 to recognise us as a sexual class across the globe. Women as a sexual class inhabit the diverse politics of living in a female body with its many colours, races, genders and classes. As such this sexual class is not unitary, but rather poly-versally united.

International Women’s Day started in the early 1900s – mostly by Socialist Parties to recognise the paid “work” of women. The Soviet Union was famous for its rhetoric of “sexual equality”, while demanding triple days of labour from its women. Today, women across the globe work for wages as teachers, soldiers, civilians, warriors, doctors, nurses, medical-aides, lawyers, paralegals, domestic labourers, cooks, sex-workers, chefs, janitors, migrants and more.

 

These women are also daughters mothers, sisters, wives, partners, single, gay, straight, trans, rich, poor, middle class, slum-dwellers and homeless – while struggling and achieving – with cancer and without cancer; with AIDS and without AIDS; disabled or fully abled; in war zones and not. They come in all colours and design. No woman is ever simply/singularly female, but it is always of consequence that she is.

Common struggles

Women – in all their cacophonous variety have enormous potential power as labourers, child-bearers and child-rearers, and sustainers of everyday life. Patriarchy and misogyny struggle to control and contain this power.

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If women were not as powerful as they also are sometimes powerless, we would simply be ignored. Instead, we are wrapped in blue cloth from head to toe, we are kept away from education, we are controlled to use right to divorce and right to control our bodies – abortion and contraception – only because those who dominate us fear our potential power and creativity; glass and cement ceilings keep us curtailed. You do not bother oppressing those who do little and are only capable of less.

Women are bound together by what they share, and also often pulled apart by their differences. Yet, there are common struggles: against sexual violence, for daycare and child-care supports; against unequal pay and for an end to sexual ghettos. Commonality does not require sameness.

In other words, women, in all their inter sectional diversity and individuality, must be recognized as a sexual class across racial and economic divides, with shared interests in order to be treated with full humanity. The women in Tahrir Square and in the streets of Tunisia demanded their human rights for themselves and all Egyptians and Tunisians alike. Their female bodies spoke of their sexual status, while they claimed their poly and universal rights to occupy the public streets. They chose not to be defined simply by their sexual status, but to claim that women’s rights are human rights.

Embrace women and girls – their bodies, their labor  their love, their “civilian” suffering in war, their hauling of water, their gathering of wood, their amazing creativity, their planting of trees, their protection of the environment, their stand against fracking, their fight to maintain abortion rights and other reproductive freedoms, their bravery in public and private spaces – anywhere and everywhere across this globe.

The Passion of Dance fine art ballerina portrait oil painting Drew Jacoby of Lines Ballet

For more on International women’s day you can visit this site.

http://www.internationalwomensday.com/

To This Day..

This is the most powerful, beautiful, most inspiring and saddest thing i have ever watched. I just wanted to share it with everyone because i feel it needs to be seen by the millions. So i will let the video speak for itself.

Friends You Say..

You know how you always have that friend that just loves DRAMA!?!

I mean no matter what happens she will react dramatically to it, if there is no drama she will somehow find a way to create it and then drag your ass into her drama when you didn’t even want to be part of all that..

The kind of friend who thinks she is so much hotter than all the women ever created in the world( yet so insecure on the inside she has to put down every girl who walks by).

The one who will say ” you know i’m a guys girl, i just vibe better with guys”..( meaning, she is just such a bitch and so manipulative and in no means interesting that no girls want to hang out with her)

Yeah you know the one who will say ” I’m just such a nerd and a tomb boy” ( while wearing fake spectacles, never leaving the house with no make up and wearing skimpy outfits to “play video games with the guys, you know because she is just such a guys girl”.

Yeah, if you are a girl, you have this friend, if you do not then you are probably that friend.. 😀

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The problem with having such a friend is you try your best to avoid her, to get involved in her life, but you just know that some how you will end up in her mess of a life.. Weather she is having trouble with other girls, or having financial troubles( caused by her because she loves shopping so much that she does it even when she can not afford it), or she got fired because she just so happened to talk back to her boss and call her a “worthless BIATCH”, or she suspected her boyfriend is cheating so she tells him some lie to try and catch him in a lie( and then uses you as an alibi for her lie).. It’s always something with this girl.

So like most girls, i have such a friend, and recently her dramatic lying ways have went a tad bit too far( well farther than usual anyway), she took a situation which was rather small, told it to a bunch of people in different versions that only she can manage, and ended up dragging my name straight through the mud from her end all the way to the other end which ended quite badly for me. At this point i pretty much hate her, but being as it is i could not go and confront her because a friend asked me not to, for her sake, and it is pissing me off daily to know that she just walks around thinking that she got away with it..  And i’m so tired of her that I have not been listening to her sorry stories about her men problems, or answering her calls or texts for that matter..

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So how do you deal with such a crazy person?!?! That is the question i am pondering over myself right now. Lets look at a few options.

1. Cutting her out of your life is always a bust, she will find a way to weasel herself back in.

2. Being blunt and telling her just how hair pulling, freaken, insanely annoying could be another way( but of course she won’t really hear you because her ego is so big that she chooses to hear words differently from what you say)

3. Or you could easily just open a can of whoop ass on her annoying ass!! Which i deem the best and funnest solution.. But then i’v been told you can not just go around kicking people’s asses! 😀

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So what do you do with this kind of friend in your life?!?! Do share all.. I’d love to hear everyone’s suggestions. 🙂

Resolution Going Good..

Resolutions..ooh resolutions..

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I’m sure by this time of the year most people have already discarded them to the side to never again be done until the end of the year when they will make the same resolution they have been making for the past 5 years. 😀

That is why i generally make it a point to never make one, because i can’t handle that much pressure, everyday thinking about ” Oh my gosh, if i dont complete or stick through with my resolution i shall once again be a failure”

But this year i thought, what the heck, it’s time i tried to make a resolution. But, i just didnt tell it to anyone, ( you know in case i fail at it :-D). Needless to say, so far so good. i have almost completed my resolution, albeit it was a small one, and it’s not even the middle of the year yet. YEEYY me!

My resolution for 2013 was…. **drum role please**

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To get more people around me to read more novels.. 😀  You might be thinking why in the world would i want more people to read?!! :-/

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The truth is i am a book lover, one might say i am addicted to book, some even call me a bookaholic.. But i simply love reading novels, of all genres, and the people around me wonder why i am obsessed with reading. I feel it is becoming a lost hobby, people are turning more to the internet, and movie watching. i think the best and most enjoyable way to enjoy a story is to read it, you get the true effect of the story, you picture the characters in your head the way you want them, you see the story the way it was intended to be seen. It is just a fulfilling love of mine and i wanted to share it more with my loved ones.

my aim was to get at least 6 people i know to start reading a book and finish it completely. And so far i have gotten 5 people ( yes that many) to start reading a particular book (which i myself fell completely in love with and even re read once more) and they are all close to finishing it, once in a while checking in with me and telling me how good it is and they didnt expect that.. 😀

The main task at hand was to find a book that i knew would completely capture them in its addictive story so much that they will not be able to put it down. They will be forced to finish it. And i found the perfect book, one lil hot number y non other than Miss James herself 😉

So what about all you lovelies out there?! Did you make a resolution?! and if yes how far have you gone with it? 🙂

au revoir 2012… hello 2013..

This year is finally coming to a close! As i type my final post for 2012 i just want to reflect on everything!

In the past year we have seen horrific occurrences around the world, women abuse in India, child massacres in The united States, Child marriages in Malaysia, teenage bullying and suicide all over the world, a child who wants desperately to be educated shot down by thugs in Pakistan, People killing helpless animals.. Its enough to make you lose all hope and faith in humanity.

But we must always remember to keep hope alive. i myself almost lost all though out this whole year. It was hard to keep believing that as humanity we haven’t went all bad, but as one can see it has been a busy year for the perverts, criminals, rapist, murderers of this world…

G. K. Chesterton said “But all is not lost, the world is till full of loving, caring people who try to help those who need it. As 2013 rolls by i just hope to do something to atleast help 1 person a day. And i hope that we all become more informed and empathetic to what goes on, not only around us, but all over the world.”

The object of a New Year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul and a new nose; new feet, a new backbone, new ears, and new eyes. Unless a particular man made New Year resolutions, he would make no resolutions. Unless a man starts afresh about things, he will certainly do nothing effective. Unless a man starts on the strange assumption that he has never existed before, it is quite certain that he will never exist afterwards.

Having said that, i wish all of you a very happy and prosperous new year! Enjoy responsibly ( maybe a little wildly) and show some love to all those whom you care for. Talk to you all next year! 😀

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