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Lets Trade Places..


How about we trade places for once, for a day, even just an hour!

This is how I sometimes feel about being a girl in a relationship. I want to trade places for once, I want my boyfriend to feel how it is like to be his girlfriend, how it is like to be a girl period!

The waiting for calls, the loving too much(I believe women always love more than men in the relationship).

The going out with my friends at all hours of the day for however long I wish without a care in the world, not even bothering to let him know I’m good, i’m still alive, or simply that I wont be home till late..

The constant ogling at random “hot” guys that pass about just drooling because they are so fucking gorgeous.

The power switch, so that I now have total power and control over the relationship and how it is going to go and how decisions will be made..


Let us be the ones who dress slouchy and still be sexy as hell, while they have to where tight clothes and uncomfortable heels just so that we can whistle and say demeaning things to them in order to grab their attention. Then call them sluts for dressing sexy and for the simple fact that we cant have them..

I mean just for hour hour, i’m sure he wouldnt survive being me. This is the thing about men, they are sometimes( not all the times) very inconsiderate of their women’s feelings and most of the times take us for granted because they simply believe we will be by their side for ever.. While on the other hand they want, no, expect us to be all over them, and grant them every wish under the sun, not to mention know when they want to be with us and when they dont want to be.. as if we some sort of mind readers!

Lol, so I just say, lets trade places just for an hour, and see how that affects them. 😀

Common Prostitute Or Business Woman?!

I dont know what to say but just read for yourself.. One woman is selling snuggles to all men. She says “No nudity, no sex, just cuddles”… can you believe it? would you pay $60.00 for a snuggle from a stranger?

It used to be that a hug was a comforting gesture of companionship between friends or lovers but one woman in Penfield, NY has turned cuddling into a business.

Sessions of up to 90 minutes take place in a private room while friends and family members mill around the house offering protection from any over-enthusiastic clients.

For customers interested in Jackie’s services, most of whom are men, she admits, a series of FAQs provides information about what clothing to wear and what kind of behaviour is appropriate.

Sexual arousal, reads the website, ‘is perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable,’ but acting on those impulses is forbidden. ‘This is not about sex, and I’m really straightforward about that,’ she insisted during an interview with 13WHAM, adding with a child-like lisp: ‘I always liked to snuggle, it seemed pretty simple to me.’

An advocate of the notion that ‘touch’ is a healing activity of which most Americans are deprived, Ms Samuel believes that just a few minutes of cuddling can relieve stress and aggravation for up to five days.

‘Research provides us with ample evidence that physical contact with others has a positive effect on our physical and mental health,’ she writes on her website.

To read more about this you can check out her website: the snuggery

Some people have said she is just a common prostitute because she is selling her body but she swears it is not like that at all.. I feel it is worse because a snuggle is just much more intimate, but then again that’s just my opinion.. What do you think?

The Safety Of Our Girls Is In Our Hands..

I lie on my bed with tears in my eyes. I want to cry not just for me, but for the horror that i see in the world. How can it be so hard to be a young girl in the planet that we live in? Has the world not evolved and changed at all!? It pains me.

I read all these articles on the news ( BBC, CNN, Yahoo, MSN live and just general news casters) talking about young girls, as young as 13 years old being killed and called whores because some old perverts decided to rape them, Its a shame how in some parts of the world if a girl is raped she has to hide it for the fear of being shamed and chastised even though it was not her fault.

An example of the terror thats ripping through our communities is the story below.

A father of a teenage girl who was gang-raped by eight men poisoned himself after a video clip of the attack was passed through the family’s village in India.

The 16 year-old girl, from Dabra village in Hisar, north India, was subjected to the horrifying ordeal on September 9, after apparently rebuffing the advances of one of the men.

The Dalit family had tried to keep the assault private, but days later when footage shot by one of the attackers was shown to villagers the girl’s humiliated father, Krishan, killed himself.

This is not the only shocking story of a kind, if i list them out you would feel like killing all the men in the world just so that our little girls can be as safe as imaginable possible. Their innocence is stolen and can never be retrieved again.

Little girls are our future, women make the world a better place, and with all these little girls being tortured, raped, sold into sex slavery, kidnapped, murdered for standing up for their rights, with so many situations clipping their wings, what kind of future do we see for our planet?!

I have a poem from my other blog called Little Girl that explains my fear, and sadness much better than i can articulate here.

Today i suggest you nurture, hug, help just 1 little girl in your life to show them how much they are loved and to put a smile on their face.

Let’s Go Pink!

As some of you might not know, October is breast cancer awareness month!

As The month of October begins, i want all of us to pay attention to the rising numbers  of breast cancer throughout the entire world. A lot of people do not now the symptoms of breast cancer( or that it does not cancer women only as men can also get it), neither do they even know how to conduct self breast cancer checks.

What is breast cancer?

Breast cancer is a malignant tumor (a collection of cancer cells) arising from the cells of the  breast. Although breast cancer predominantly occurs in women it can also affect men.

Symptoms of breast cancer:

Initially, breast cancer may not cause any symptoms. A lump may be too small for you to feel or to cause any unusual changes you can notice on your own. Often, an abnormal area turns up on a screening mammogram (x-ray of the breast), which leads to further testing.

According to the American Cancer Society, any of the following unusual changes in the breast can be a symptom of breast cancer:

  • swelling of all or part of the breast
  • skin irritation or dimpling
  • breast pain
  • nipple pain or the nipple turning inward
  • redness, scaliness, or thickening of the nipple or breast skin
  • a nipple discharge other than breast milk
  • a lump in the underarm area

Even though these are symptoms of breast cancer, they sometimes just turn out to be a less serious condition like a cyst. It is important to go and see a doctor if you see any of these signs.

Facts about breast cancer:

  • Breast cancer is the most common cancer among women.
  • One in every eight women  develops breast cancer.
  • There are many types of breast cancer that differ in their capability of spreading (metastasizing) to other body tissues.
  • The causes of breast cancer are not yet fully known although a number of risk factors have been identified.
  • There are many different types of breast cancer.
  • Breast cancer is diagnosed with physician and self-examination of the breasts, mammography, ultrasound testing, and biopsy.
  • Treatment of breast cancer depends on the type of cancer and its stage (the extent of spread in the body).

Breast Cancer Self Exam

As a woman you need to do the self exam below at least every morning in order to make sure that all is right.

Lets all be aware this month and try to teach as many people as we can!

To learn more about breast cancer please do go to these websites

1. ww5.komen.org

2. cancerabout.com


Day 30: Your highs and lows of this month

SO today is the last day of getting to know me a little better.. I hope you guys have enjoyed reading and knowing me a tad bit more.

My lows of this month have been the rejection letters i have been getting from different companies that i am trying to do do my internship at.. It has been very hard and has kind of shown me what lies ahead after graduation, Endless pool of rejection from companies until you get that one job after so long.. 😦

My high this month was finding the trilogy of “fifty shades of grey”!! never did i know that i will be so captivated by the story line, the pure lust and passion from Christian to Anastasia, never did i know it will ruin all other books for me, i read all the 3 books in a matter of 3 days.. 😀

Day 29: Goals for the next 30 days

Wooww!! lets see i dont think i have thought about this one much but i will try to say as much as i can..

My goals for the next 30 days are to carry off an event which i have been planning for a while now with out a hitch, i have been having a few setbacks with it over and over again, but i just want to believe it will happen.

My next goal is to study hard and pass my finals because this is my one final chance to get this done for me to graduate next year.

And my final goal is to find a place to do my internship(industrial training if you may). i have been having a hard time with this one but hopefully with all the rejections that im getting i will get that one acceptance.. 🙂

Day 27: A problem that you have

Lets see, today we discuss my problem..

I don’t think i have any major problem right now, but the one thing that’s troubling me is what will happen after my graduation with my relationship.. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, literally my whole college life, and it was my first ever relationship and when i graduate(i currently study in Malaysia) i will be going back to my home country(Botswana) and my boyfriend will still have a year left and then he will go to his home country(Egypt). And the though of us not being together anymore is driving me almost to the brink of no return..I just have so many questions, will we stay together, will we date long distance, will we get married and make little cute babies in the future??!! i just dont know.. And the thought of losing him or of him not being in my life anymore makes me literally feel a piece of my heart breaking..

Day 26: What kind of person attracts you?

Day 26: What kind of person attracts you?

So i have to confess that i am a hopeless romantic and my dream man would have to be a knight in shinning amour who will sweep me off my feet and love me for eternity hopelessly and ridiculously!! 😀

But even though my knight has a knack for saving damsels in distress, he is somewhat of a black knight. He is rough, scared and even has a bit of a dark soul on the inside, but shiny, good hearted and loves one women for his entire life.. lol..

Alright the kind of person who attracts me has to be kind and caring, love his family especially his mother. Drop dead gorgeous( to my eyes anyway :-D). Protective and somewhat jealous( because it makes me feel loved and cherished) I know most people would rather have someone who is not a jealous person, but i need a jealous person as i am also very jealous.

I need a man who would love and crave to take care of me and who would want to give me the world as i would love to give him the world as well.. I have to be honest and say i also do not want someone who comes off as “too perfect”( this is the truth about all women) because i know i am very flawed as well.. I want some one who is generous and open minded, as well as not threatened by my sense of opinions..

But really in the end i just want someone who will love me for me and forever as i would do the same as well.. 🙂

Day 25: Someone who fascinates you and why?

Lets see someone who fascinates me and why.. 🙂

I am by no doubt and by all means a book junky, i love reading so much, i read everyday. And the one person who fascinates me is E.L James

The author of the amazing trilogy books :





This woman fascinates me because of these magnificently, raunchy, sexy,romantic and super addictive books which i have been infested in for the last 3 days.. I have literally fell in love with these books and i have to say i would love to go into this woman’s head and just figure out how she came to make such a magnificent trilogy..