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Getting over a heart ache..

heartache

People think that there are things that can ‘fix’ heartbreak. That saying ‘these things happen for a reason’ or some other platitude meant to make you feel better is somehow enough. And this heartbreak likely makes no sense to you right now. The pain and darkness feels overwhelming and you see no way out. You can see no reason for it. But one day it will make sense to you. Everything will be okay again.

This ‘everything happens for a reason’ concept is a hard one to grasp. This idea of a master plan. And people tell you, with best intentions, that all of this has happened so you can clear the way for the ‘right’ one. They tell you this because that idea is what got them through. They imagined that fate was pulling the strings in their existence.

And isn’t that what many of us do everyday? We work to convince ourselves that everything will come together in some sort of glorious union that will lead to happiness for all the rest of your days.

We want to believe this. We feel suffocated and all we want to do is grab on to something that will give us a reason to breathe, to keep going. And the thing is, we aren’t trying to be dramatic. We are just searching for a meaning in it all. We tell ourselves we have to suffer through all of this to get our reward.

We confuse ourselves by holding on to a belief that every single tiny detail of our lives and our relationships are preordained and part of some wonderful story that will eventually save us from all suffering. We look for meaning in every single second. We do this without even considering that maybe somethings just happen for no reason at all. Maybe they happen because we are human and humans do random things. We are humans who are actually endowed with the gift of free will and make our own choices each and every day.

Don’t give up on hope, or the idea of finding the love that won’t end in heartbreak. Remember that we are all basically doing the same thing. We are all walking the earth and breathing air and just living. And each and every one of us can make sense of our pain and our grief, not by laying it all on the doorstep of a higher power but by examining the changes this experience has caused in you. Don’t treat your life like a story. Treat it like a life. Use your heartache to remind you that you are living, you are feeling, you are being, every single moment of every day.

This experience has made you curious, and hungry for something better in your life. It has helped you move even closer to becoming truly aware of all that makes you you. That journey lasts far longer than your heartbreak will. Good things are almost certainly going to happen in your life. But they won’t happen because fate decided to smile upon you that day. They will happen because you paid attention to the deep strength within you, that drive to live fully and happily and YOU made them happen.

We want to believe this. We feel suffocated and all we want to do is grab on to something that will give us a reason to breathe, to keep going. And the thing is, we aren’t trying to be dramatic. We are just searching for a meaning in it all. We tell ourselves we have to suffer through all of this to get our reward.

We confuse ourselves by holding on to a belief that every single tiny detail of our lives and our relationships are preordained and part of some wonderful story that will eventually save us from all suffering. We look for meaning in every single second. We do this without even considering that maybe somethings just happen for no reason at all. Maybe they happen because we are human and humans do random things. We are humans who are actually endowed with the gift of free will and make our own choices each and every day.

Don’t give up on hope, or the idea of finding the love that won’t end in heartbreak. Remember that we are all basically doing the same thing. We are all walking the earth and breathing air and just living. And each and every one of us can make sense of our pain and our grief, not by laying it all on the doorstep of a higher power but by examining the changes this experience has caused in you. Don’t treat your life like a story. Treat it like a life. Use your heartache to remind you that you are living, you are feeling, you are being, every single moment of every day.

This experience has made you curious, and hungry for something better in your life. It has helped you move even closer to becoming truly aware of all that makes you you. That journey lasts far longer than your heartbreak will. Good things are almost certainly going to happen in your life. But they won’t happen because fate decided to smile upon you that day. They will happen because you paid attention to the deep strength within you, that drive to live fully and happily and YOU made them happen.

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Let’s get personal…

I hardly ever talk about anything personal on this blog, but today merits a bit of intimacy i believe! 😀

anni

Today is my five year anniversary with my boyfriend! Yes.. 5 Years.. WOOOWW! It seems like a long time when i say it out loud, but it feels like we have just met. It feels like we have been dating just for a short time, still exploring and discovering new things about each other every single day.

Let me give a little back story to our world whirl relationship. We met during my first year in University, just 3 months after I began studying and the day we met I knew we were destined to be. It probably sounds sappy, but anyway, we met, we clicked and we have been together ever since.

It was hard at times, filled with fights, misunderstandings and general confusion as can be when two strangers get to know each other. But we always got through it, and we always ended up loving each other more afterwards and this has been the best 5 years of my life, the happiest I have ever been and I never thought it was possible to love someone this much until I met him. And I’m pretty sure he will not read this, he never much checks out this blog, but thats ok. I just felt a need to scream it to the world that I am in love and it’s been five years and I hope to celebrate man more years to come with him. 😀

Couple in Bed

 

Happy anniversary my handsome, sweet, lovely, amazing bf! I love you more than words can say.    😀

p.s that is not us in the picture. 🙂

The Relationship Game..

One of the best ways to improve and deepen a relationship is mutual understanding. What’s the best way to achieve this? Asking questions, really listening, and then sharing your stories too. How do we really ever know our spouse/lover/boyfriend/girlfriend? By playing this game i found online you get to really know your partner in a fun game. Take turns asking and answering the questions below. There are no exact rules. The idea is to have fun mostly with just the conversation. You can modify questions for younger children. You can introduce drawing or painting, singing or charades. You could throw a bean bag back and forth each time you do a new question? You can do this standing, sitting, or walking. It can be played inside, outside or over the phone. It’s not a competitive game. It’s a game of fun, warmth, and relationship building
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You can either take turns asking questions you like from the list or you can randomly choose numbers, whatever works for you. If other questions follow naturally, all the better. Let the conversation flow! Let us know how you modify the game for more fun!

The Questions (for any age – feel free to modify)

The Questions (for any age – feel free to modify)

  1. What is your favorite color?
  2. Who do you admire most?
  3. Who is your best friend?
  4. What is your funniest habit?
  5. What do you dislike/hate?
  6. What was your favorite dream ever?
  7. What was your scariest dream ever?
  8. What famous person would you like to have dinner with? What would you talk about?
  9. Have you ever dreamed you could fly?
  10. What is your favorite smell?
  11. What is your favorite song?
  12. What do you like to do when you’re bored?
  13. What’s your favorite adventure you’ve been on?
  14. What are you most scared of?
  15. If you could live anywhere and bring anyone you want, where would you live?
  16. What place are you keen to visit? Far away and nearby.
  17. What are you most proud of?
  18. Did/Do you have an imaginary friend? Tell us more.
  19. What is your favorite holiday? Why?
  20. What is your favorite holiday memory?
  21. What was the best and worst day of your life?
  22. What is your favorite food? Least favorite?
  23. What is your favorite word? Least favorite?
  24. How do you express your creativity?
  25. Where do you believe we come from before birth?
  26. Where do you believe we go after death?
  27. What is something that always makes you laugh?
  28. What person always makes you laugh?
  29. If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
  30. What would be the consequences if you got your wish?
  31. Do you collect or live simply? Explain.
  32. What drives you crazy?
  33. What makes you smile?
  34. What do you know about your heritage? Grandparents and back.
  35. Do you have a favorite story from your family history?
  36. What’s the most shocking thing you ever did?
  37. What would you like to have a “do-over” on?
  38. What is your favorite story to tell?
  39. What’s your favorite animal? Why?
  40. What is your favorite season? Why?
  41. What is your favorite hobby?
  42. What is your favorite thing to do on the weekends?
  43. What one thing do you want to change in yourself?
  44. When did you feel most alone?
  45. When did you feel most happy?
  46. What do you do to cheer yourself up?
  47. With whom would you like to trade places for a day?
  48. What makes you mad?
  49. Do you want to have children?
  50. What’s your favorite thing you own?
  51. What do you wish you could do?
  52. What are the colors of the numbers 1-10? Letters?
  53. What are you afraid of?
  54. What would your dream house be like?
  55. Do you believe in angels?
  56. Are you ticklish?
  57. What is your favorite place?
  58. What’s your favorite place in nature?
  59. Which do you like better: hot or cold?
  60. What was your favorite Halloween costume?
  61. What was your favorite thing to do as a kid?
  62. What is your favorite memory from high school? college? grade school?
  63. What makes you sad?
  64. What does your name mean? Why did your parents choose it?
  65. What are your favorite clothes?
  66. Who is your favorite person to talk to? Why?
  67. What’s your favorite hiding place?
  68. What do you want to be when you grow up?
  69. What do you want people to remember you for?
  70. What is your most annoying habit (to others)?
  71. In your most difficult relationship, what makes it so?
  72. How do you show compassion?
  73. What are you always curious to learn more about?
  74. Whom do you miss?
  75. What do you like to teach?
  76. What is your favorite gadget?
  77. What do you like to write about?
  78. What is your favorite “bad” thing to do?
  79. What is your favorite movie?
  80. Favorite book?
  81. Favorite band? Song?
  82. Do you like to go camping?
  83. What fascinates you?
  84. What makes you special?

Happy playing and hopefully this will make your relationships stronger.. 😀