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Stalkers And Secret Admirers..

Today i thought i should talk about something different, stalkers and secret admirers. Why do people become stalkers or secret admirers, even more importantly why do some people have stalkers!! I have had the experience of having someone actually stalk me, for me it was a very weird and somewhat scary experience. The girl was in love with me, but i did not feel the same for her at all ( i mean seeing as i am not attracted to girls and all). But it was a very traumatizing and stressful situation.

People characterized as stalkers may have a mistaken belief that another person loves them, or that they need rescuing.Stalking can sometimes consist of an accumulation of a series of actions which in themselves can be legal, such as calling on the phone, sending gifts, or sending emails. ( and i have experience all of the above, receiving email, phone calls, pictures of me taken when i didnt even know it, weird gifts) i mean name it i experienced it.. :-/

Despite a growing body of research in the past five years, stalking is still very misunderstood by the public, the courts and law enforcement. For practical purposes there are three types of stalking. Relationship stalking occurs when a couple breaks up. But that is not stalking in a legal sense. It just looks like and feels like stalking. Obsessional stalking develops because of the way the couple interacted and the way they broke up. Obsessional stalking is a psychological problem that has many causes but in general it is the result of an “on again” and “off again” relationship as was well as a “desire and fear of a relationship” in one person and “fear of separation and loss” in the other. The childhood of at least one these people is usually emotionally barren or emotionally abusive. Delusional stalking occurs when a mental disorder causes the person to become obsessed or fixated on some unsuspecting person because of what amounts to a medical condition.

Moving on, secret admirers arent really different from stalkers by my believe. I think the only difference is that we some how know that the secret admirers wont actually ever hurt us, or hurt other people because of their professed love for us.

secret admirer is an individual who feels adoration, fondness or love for another person without disclosing their identity to that person. The admirer may often send gifts or love letters to their crush. A secret admirer is usually benign. Mostly, the goal of a secret admirer is to woo the object of their affections, and then to reveal their identity, paving the way for a real relationship.

The best way to deal with a stalker is to remove yourself from the stalker’s reach. This should be your first priority. Cut off all communication with the stalker. Avoid responding. As for the Secret admirer i guess it all depends on whether you want to know who that person is or not, and whether you will want to get to know them more or not, if you are curious, then you can go ahead and meet your secret admirer or if you are not interested, you can just ignore them and not respond to their letters and invitations. 😀

Now im not sure why i have had both a stalker( luckly only one) and secret admirer ( i have had about 4 now).. but below is a picture of some letters i have gotten from both my stalker and secret admirers.. can you tell which one is which ? 🙂


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It’s Getting Harder To Live In This World

I just completely can not bare to live in a world like this, my last post was about the 27 year old man who married the 8 year old girl in Saudi Arabia. And today i see another equally disturbing story about a 15 year old girl in Afghanistan who was tortured by her in laws ( yes, she is only 15 and is like the one before, married to a  30 year old man) because she refused to be pushed into prostitution.. There is not much that i can say about this because it just makes me sick. The girl has since been rescued by the Afghan Women’s Network, it makes me a little bit happy to know that at least this girl, unlike the many others in the world who are forced into marriage and prostitution and the in laws were arrested as well, but the husband wasn’t. If we all saved one girl who goes through such horror ( this girl was locked in her in laws’ basement, starved and had her nails pulled out) then it will do some change in the world. 

If you want to read more about this go to this link

 

 

 

 

 

47 Year Old Marries An 8 Year Old…

 

What kind of sick perverted world are we living in!!? Is it possible for an 8 year old girl to get married to a 47 year old man? the answer is hell NO!! It sickens me to read about old men marrying small kids in middle easten countries.. It makes me want to collect all those perverted men and put them in one place and set it on fire..( lol, too much i know, but that is just how angry it makes me).

Two day in a row now that i have been reading two articles on bbc.com, one article was about a Saudi Arabian man who gave his8 year old daughter to a 47 year old man for marriage because he owed him money, and when the man’s ex wife tried to protest and get her daughter’s marriage annulled, the prince refused saying the girl is of age to be married and also that the man will not sleep with the girl until she is 16. Who will be there to watch that that really happens, the reason these men marry small girls is because they are attracted to them ( and what kind of man is attracted to an 8 year old??) As much as it pains me to say this out load to myself, i believe the man has sex with the girl the moment they get home..
And then today i read another article which a top Saudi cleric said  it’s ok for a young girls to marry, quoting Sheikh Abdul Aziz Al-Sheikh, the kingdom’s grand mufti,  he said “It is incorrect to say that it’s not permitted to marry off girls who are 15 and younger, A girl aged 10 or 12 can be married. Those who think she’s too young are wrong and they are being unfair to her “. Hearing this from what is supposed to be a respected, logical member of society just made me so confused. Men like these are the reason people all over the world are hating the Islam religion more and more because when they hear things like this, and him saying that it is Sharia law and written in the quran that old men should marry small girls ( 8 year olds to 15 year olds).
I mean who in the whole wide freaken world believes that a 10 or 12 year old girl has any sense of mind to be married?  how is it that a 10 year old is developed enough to be marriage worthy? What they are doing is just stripping kids of their innocence, their childhood..
In every other country small girls like this are busy playing with their barbies, thinking about homework, worrying about nothing, playing jump rope, playing with their mother’s make up and just being girly and a child.
If it was in any normal country which is concerned about women and children’s rights, these men would be put in prison for being both perverts and child molesters as well as child traffickers!!
If only i had the power to erase them from the earth i would make the world a much better place!!
If you want to read the complete articles then go to these links article1 and article2
And i would love to hear your thoughts on this. 🙂

Painting The World With Ugliness…

Have you ever asked yourself  what are you doing to make the world better, to increase even one person’s happiness, to help one homeless person?

Most of us never even think about this fact, we walk around consumed in our own thoughts and lives so much so that we never see the terrible environment all around us. We see people being killed, being bullied, being lonely all because we don’t feel it’s worth our time to lend a hand, or even to look and open our eyes to the hurt and pain all around us.

We live in a world of no sense of society, no sense of responsibility, no sense of helping each other, people commit suicide simply because they are lonely and have no one to turn to.

Instead of painting the world with ugliness each and every single second, why dont we all try. If you have the chance to change someone’s life, why dont you take it?

Why dont we start painting the world with love, hope and  a rainbow of happiness??