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Elliot Rodger and the price of toxic masculinity!

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On Friday night, May 23, Elliot Rodger allegedly stabbed three men to death in his apartment. He then got behind the wheel of his BMW and proceeded to murder three more people and injure 13 others before dying of a gunshot wound to the head.

 

He did this because he was a virgin.

This isn’t speculation. In a blood-chilling video titled “Elliot Rodger’s Retribution,” (link includes a transcript; the video itself is incredibly hard to watch) the 22-year-old delivered a long rant about being a virgin—about how since he hit puberty he has been afflicted with unfulfilled desires. He was 22 years old and had never even kissed a girl.

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In college, he felt as if he were surrounded by a world that he was not allowed to participate in, a world of sex and desire and love that he was cruelly excluded from. He wanted sex, but women refused to be attracted to him. He complained that it wasn’t “fair” that everybody else got to experience “sex, fun and pleasure,” and he was left out.

He couldn’t stand how women would snub him, a self-proclaimed “supreme gentleman,” while throwing themselves at “obnoxious brutes.” For these crimes, in his words—“the crime of living a better life than me”—they deserved to die. Because they supposedly forced him to suffer, they deserved to be made to suffer in return.

And so he killed six people and sent 13 more to the hospital.

His long, rambling manifesto is full of similar rants about the duplicity of women and how they needed to be put in their place. He believed he was entitled to women’s affections and to women’s bodies—and that being “denied” what he thought was his due meant that the best thing he could do is go murder as many people as he could to punish them. Because that was exactly what he was doing: punishing people for the crime of not fucking him. They were forcing him to be an “incel,” forcing him to be a virgin, making him less than a man. And he was spending his time in online communities and YouTube channels that encouraged and promoted that view.

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Because that is exactly what the cultural narrative of masculinity says: that manhood is inherently tied to sex. A man’s “coming of age” is linked to becoming sexually active—as early as possible.

In fact, the idea of “man as sexual being” is so ingrained that a man who was sexually assaulted as a child is seen as being that much more manly and potent. If Chris Brown can get laid at 8, what does that mean for you if you can’t get laid at 15? At 17? At 20? The older you get, the more terrifying it becomes to reveal that you’re a virgin—surely this means that something’s wrong with you, right?

It becomes a self-reinforcing loop of negative feedback: You’re still a virgin because you’re inherently damaged somehow and therefore other people won’t sleep with you so you stay a virgin for longer. And as a result, you’re not a man. You’re defective.

To read more please go to the link below

http://www.dailydot.com/opinion/elliot-rodger-price-toxic-masculinity/

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Passion..

A person who has a passionate soul can not change who they are.. It surfaces into all areas of their lives, A passion who speaks, acts and breathes passionately can not be tamed..

Everything affects them wholly and completely… Music.. art… words…dance… feelings.. It all overly affects them

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They are naturally inquisitive.. They question everything.. sometimes to a point of exasperation. Until they find what their soul is searching for…

Their highs are insanely high,lifting them up to the peaks of the clouds..
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And their lows are gut wrenchingly low, burying them deep beneath the cold ground..
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One might say they are over baring, that they are clingy, or maybe dramatic.. But the truth is they just feel every single soluble of emotion to the very deepest of their core.. They love passionately..They mourn with fervor… They go through life with an unstoppable, unbreakable zeal..

Men Kicked Out Of Saudi Arabia For Being Ridiculously Good Looking ..

Three men attending the annual Jenadrivah Heritage and Culture Festival in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia have been kicked out for being too good looking… Too Handsome for a festival!

The Arabic Elaph newspaper reports the man were thrown out by religious police as it was believed they were just too irresistible, and the local women folk who are forbidden from interacting with men outside of the family, would not be able to control themselves.

Jezebel claims to have lifted the veil on one of the trio ,Without further ado, meet Omar Borkan Al Gala, a photographer, actor and poet from Dubai.

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Though he has not yet confirmed he was indeed one of the infamous three, Al Gala has modestly posted a link to the original news report on his Facebook page, along with such musings as: “The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.” Sigh.

Emirates 24/7 states the three men in question were delegates at a stand promoting the UAE, which had attracted the attention of the religious police due to the unexpected presence of a female Emirati artist.

A spokesman for the UAE delegation issued a statement confirming: “Her visit to the UAE stand was a coincidence as it was not included in the programme which we had already provided to the festival’s management.”

Arabian Business, which has also fingered Al Gala as being one of the trio, points out the strictly conservative Sunni Muslim society prohibits women from interacting with unrelated males.

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As ridiculous as this sounds, if your going to get kicked out of anywhere for anything, let it be for that reason. Because although you’re being excluded, it’d be hard to take offence from that. 😀

Do You Believe In Soul Mates?

Today’s post is short and to the point.. 😀

Do you believe in soul mates?
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That there is one special person out there that you are destined to meet and fall hopelessly and shamelessly in love with?
That there is one human being out there in this big world that fate has kept for you and for you alone?
The thing is i am a hopeless romantic, I believe in one time love, a kind of love that drags you by the heart towards that person that you just cant be away from..
The kind of love that lasts a life time even if the other person dies..
I believe one can not love more than 1 person and that when one finds this love their life suddenly makes sense..
The kind of love that. rocks the very world that you live in..
The kind of love that’s filled with passionate embraces, lustful glances, stolen kisses out of this world earth shattering love making..
The kind of love that binds two souls together in a fevered dance of the heart..
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So my question to you is.. Do you believe in soul mates?
Because I do and I have found mine.. 🙂

Lets Trade Places..

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How about we trade places for once, for a day, even just an hour!

This is how I sometimes feel about being a girl in a relationship. I want to trade places for once, I want my boyfriend to feel how it is like to be his girlfriend, how it is like to be a girl period!

The waiting for calls, the loving too much(I believe women always love more than men in the relationship).

The going out with my friends at all hours of the day for however long I wish without a care in the world, not even bothering to let him know I’m good, i’m still alive, or simply that I wont be home till late..

The constant ogling at random “hot” guys that pass about just drooling because they are so fucking gorgeous.

The power switch, so that I now have total power and control over the relationship and how it is going to go and how decisions will be made..

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Let us be the ones who dress slouchy and still be sexy as hell, while they have to where tight clothes and uncomfortable heels just so that we can whistle and say demeaning things to them in order to grab their attention. Then call them sluts for dressing sexy and for the simple fact that we cant have them..

I mean just for hour hour, i’m sure he wouldnt survive being me. This is the thing about men, they are sometimes( not all the times) very inconsiderate of their women’s feelings and most of the times take us for granted because they simply believe we will be by their side for ever.. While on the other hand they want, no, expect us to be all over them, and grant them every wish under the sun, not to mention know when they want to be with us and when they dont want to be.. as if we some sort of mind readers!

Lol, so I just say, lets trade places just for an hour, and see how that affects them. 😀

International Women’s Day

A woman is beauty..

A woman is strength..

A woman is power..

A woman is hope..

A woman is love..

A woman is the future..

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Today is International women’s day, International Women’s Day (IWD), originally called International Working Women’s Day, is marked on March 8 every year. In different regions the focus of the celebrations ranges from general celebration of respect, appreciation and love towards women to a celebration for women’s economic, political and social achievements.

In many parts of the world women are abused, treated like second class citizens  raped, and just plain disrespected and not loved the way they are supposed to be.

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On this International Women’s Day let women embrace themselves in multiple identities and complexities. Each of us embodies many realities all at the same time. The same woman who may be raped is also a mother, a professional worker, a migrant labourer, or…. None of our issues should be singularised although there are times they need priority.

This said, it is time in 2013 to recognise us as a sexual class across the globe. Women as a sexual class inhabit the diverse politics of living in a female body with its many colours, races, genders and classes. As such this sexual class is not unitary, but rather poly-versally united.

International Women’s Day started in the early 1900s – mostly by Socialist Parties to recognise the paid “work” of women. The Soviet Union was famous for its rhetoric of “sexual equality”, while demanding triple days of labour from its women. Today, women across the globe work for wages as teachers, soldiers, civilians, warriors, doctors, nurses, medical-aides, lawyers, paralegals, domestic labourers, cooks, sex-workers, chefs, janitors, migrants and more.

 

These women are also daughters mothers, sisters, wives, partners, single, gay, straight, trans, rich, poor, middle class, slum-dwellers and homeless – while struggling and achieving – with cancer and without cancer; with AIDS and without AIDS; disabled or fully abled; in war zones and not. They come in all colours and design. No woman is ever simply/singularly female, but it is always of consequence that she is.

Common struggles

Women – in all their cacophonous variety have enormous potential power as labourers, child-bearers and child-rearers, and sustainers of everyday life. Patriarchy and misogyny struggle to control and contain this power.

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If women were not as powerful as they also are sometimes powerless, we would simply be ignored. Instead, we are wrapped in blue cloth from head to toe, we are kept away from education, we are controlled to use right to divorce and right to control our bodies – abortion and contraception – only because those who dominate us fear our potential power and creativity; glass and cement ceilings keep us curtailed. You do not bother oppressing those who do little and are only capable of less.

Women are bound together by what they share, and also often pulled apart by their differences. Yet, there are common struggles: against sexual violence, for daycare and child-care supports; against unequal pay and for an end to sexual ghettos. Commonality does not require sameness.

In other words, women, in all their inter sectional diversity and individuality, must be recognized as a sexual class across racial and economic divides, with shared interests in order to be treated with full humanity. The women in Tahrir Square and in the streets of Tunisia demanded their human rights for themselves and all Egyptians and Tunisians alike. Their female bodies spoke of their sexual status, while they claimed their poly and universal rights to occupy the public streets. They chose not to be defined simply by their sexual status, but to claim that women’s rights are human rights.

Embrace women and girls – their bodies, their labor  their love, their “civilian” suffering in war, their hauling of water, their gathering of wood, their amazing creativity, their planting of trees, their protection of the environment, their stand against fracking, their fight to maintain abortion rights and other reproductive freedoms, their bravery in public and private spaces – anywhere and everywhere across this globe.

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For more on International women’s day you can visit this site.

http://www.internationalwomensday.com/

Sexy, Dominating, Obsessive Men Of Our Dreams..

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By that i mean the men women fantasize or wish their men to be like. I believe this because leading men all the delicious, sexy, romantic novels that women become addicted to always have the same traits/ characteristics.Christian Grey (Fifty Shades of Grey), Gideon Cross (Crossfire trilogy), Jeremiah Hamilton (Anything he wants), Elijah Reynolds(A hunger so wild), Lieutenant David Colyear ( Almost a scandal), Roman Reynolds(Temptation Rising).. I could go on the whole night..  😀

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It seems powerful, dominating, broody, obsessively protective,controlling,over bearing, overly  jealous, billionaires with incredible sexpertise are what we women are looking for. A man who would love you so deeply and so completely you become his sole focus, his sole possession  so much that he would do anything for you,he must have you, any time, any place, he would do anything to you *naughty grin*. He would love you so much he would die for you, want to spend every second of every day worshiping at your feet (of course topping all the time).

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But would these men’s irrational, sometimes stalkerish ways work in the real world?! Would their power be as attractive as in the books? not to mention the fact that they come bearing more than enough  baggage for the relationship to actually work.. But what can i say, as women this is what we are addicted to, this is what we crave, for someone to make all the decisions, for someone to love us so much it stifles us, For someone who longs so very much for you they can hardly stay away from you,  for someone to put everything and everyone else in their lives just so that they can some and meet our every need, our every desire.. But again i ask, would this work in realistic terms?!

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Ladies is this the kind of man you long for? 🙂